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Monday, March 14, 2011

perfect imperfections

It's so easy to make little excuses for little mistakes. It's so easy to say, "Hey, God, don't get on my case, I only said it one time," or "Hey, God, what would you have done in this situation? I'm pretty sure I acted like anyone else would have acted, I didn't do anything wrong," or "Hey, God, I yelled at Peter today cuz I was crabby, I don't usually act like that, give me a break."

It's so easy to let the devil get a foothold, as they say. It's so easy to conform without even knowing you're doing it. It's so easy to change unconsciously, to be like everyone else.

When I was homeschooled, I didn't know anything about "the outside world"; if you're homeschooled, that happens. When I entered public highschool, I learned rapidly what was cool and what wasn't.

I changed how I did my hair. I changed how I did my makeup. I changed the way I dressed and the way I walked. I changed the way I laughed and the way I wrote. I changed the radio station I listened to. I changed the books I read and the music I bought. I changed my ideas of what was acceptable and what was not. I changed the things I talked about. I changed the way I view myself. And the list goes on..

You want the gist of it? I changed myself. Bit by bit. It started with my music and ended with my morals and now I've lost myself.

I've been a Christian on the good days. I've prayed when I remembered to, but my prayers are dead and meaningless...just words. But I feel like I am a good girl. I dont swear, I dont date, I dont make dirty jokes, I dont skip school, I dont do drugs, I dont smoke, I dont drink. So on the outside, I am a good girl. I'm respectable.

And that's exactly where the problem is. Society TELLS us who we are, and we HAVE to live up to that expectation. I HAVE to be skinny. I HAVE to be pretty. I HAVE to be popular. I HAVE to be smart. I HAVE to be funny. I HAVE to be athletic. I HAVE to excel at EVERYTHING I do, otherwise I am a FAILURE. I have to be able to wear size two jeans, otherwise I am a BAD person. I have to wear the cutest clothes otherwise I am a BAD person. I have to have a million cool friends, otherwise I am a BAD person. I HAVE to make varsity, otherwise I SUCK at life.

I have to be PERFECT, otherwise I am WORTHLESS.

That is what society tells us, as young women. WE HAVE TO FIGHT THAT. That is NOT the truth, that is lies. We CANNOT believe what they tell us, because we are SO much more than that. We CANNOT let that lie define us. We MUST look beyond what is smothering us, and know that we are MEANT for a different world. We MUST know that this world full of lies and deceit and crap is NOT all there is. We must TRUST that there is more to life than the constant battle for perfection and fitting in.

JUST BECAUSE society thinks that it can TELL us who we are, that DOES NOT MEAN that we have to listen to it! Today, girls, lets STEP ABOVE that, lets REFUSE to re-mold ourselves to fit into the world's patterns BECAUSE GOD MADE US FOR A DIFFERENT WORLD.

If you weigh 150 or 110, IT DOES NOT MATTER.

If your face is blemished or unblemished, IT DOES NOT MATTER.

If you have a ton of friends or not that many, IT DOES NOT MATTER.

If you struggle with school or you dont struggle with school, IT DOES NOT MATTER.

If you make everyone laugh or just a couple people, IT DOES NOT MATTER.

If you can run the mile in six minutes or fifteen, IT DOES NOT MATTER.

You DO NOT have to live up to the world's standards, because it will fade away, and YOU will be left standing in front of God, and NOTHING ELSE WILL MATTER. Those jeans you spent all your money on? GONE. All those friends you had? Gone. Does God care how much you weighed? Does He care if you made varsity or JV? Does He care if you were popular? Does he care if you were funny?


Everything that the world tells you matters, DOESNT. As young women, we have to IGNORE the pull of the world.

Because guess what?

This. World. LIES. It does not tell you the truth. God is the only truth, and I have to GIVE my life to Him, otherwise I wasted it.  I have to spend it GLORIFYING HIM, because He is the ONLY THING that matters.

Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us. -Hebrews 12:1

If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you. John 15:19

18 replies:

♥Bleah♥Briann♥ said...


girl, you don't post that often. But when you do you never cease to blow us away. At least me. :) Keep it up!

You are beautifully and wonderfully, be you. Because in this world -- you are God's creation, not the worlds creation. So stick to your origional form and you'll be perfect. :)

Love you Bekah dear.


Izori said...

Thank you so much for this post.

Anna Gray said...

I 100% agree with everything you said, Bekah. Beautiful. :)

Kendra Logan said...

Amen! Haha, I needed this. I've been struggling with the same stuff. And I loved where you said "...because God made us for a different world." I just love that.


Jordyn said...

Amen to that sister :) Love it, Love youuuuu. (and both those verses are on my closet!!!) I needed to hear this, so thanks- and thanks again for our amazing chat last week <3

Megan said...

All I have to say is that you are amazing. Whenever you post I feel totally changed. Your posts are super duper amazing.

Thank you so much for posting this. I know it takes strength to post things like this.


[Laurea] said...

Bekah, I love when you post. You open my eyes with each word, but you do it in an eloquent, unique, beautiful way, not the "I'm going to hate you if you believe differently than me and my way is the only perfect way" kind of way. I've always been a big advocate of not conforming to society's ideas, but I've never known how to phrase it. You did it perfectly. :)


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anna :) said...

wow, Bekah. i really need this right now. so thanks.

i struggle with that -- the whole acceptance thing. then i remember i'm don't belong here, so they're not gonna accept me.

just wow. i so needed this...

Megan said...

I found this quote and it reminded me of this post, so I thought I'd share it with you..
"Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for." -Epicurus

Bailey said...

Bekah - amazing. I so needed this today.

God bless you, sister.

Anonymous said...

That was super good ! but you know how you say you will no give into all that stuff well I garentee you will you will. You say it doesent matter to you but it does and we all know that it does matter. You will still still even if you post this and think its the best thing ever you will still act like you know everything and you will still try to impress boys and you will still try to be skinny And try to act pretty everyday. The truth is you will still act the same! Even if you post said all this and mad a great post if you don't do anything and you go to school and think oh well if I swear just once it will not hurt me or if u brag about how guys flirt with you. you are still the same. until YOU can change and not care as much about how much you weigh and how fast you run and who fliers with you and how 'good' your hair is then you are the same. And until you CHANGE those things you will still be the same no matter how many things you post.

Bekah said...

dear anonymous, yep, that's the point of this blog. I'm trying to change. and my way of doing that is "writing it out", as they yeah. thanksss.

Hannah vH said...

Just wanted to say even though you don't know me... that your blog has become my favourite, and most-looked-forward-to blog. This is because you are not afraid to open up and tell people what is going on in your life. You are so real, and I enjoy watching how God is working in you. Keep the faith sister! :)

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Madeline said...

So so true!! It's so easy to fit in and so hard to stand out! Romans 12:1-2
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Anonymous said...

Amen!! :)

MaKenna Morgan said...

AMEN!!! I just have to ask, Are you the 2nd child in your family???! haha. If you are - be proud girl, be proud...

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MaKenna Morgan

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